Going physical does not adulterate friendship

I have a friend, of opposite sex. We are so close, we know each other very much, and we have enjoyed joys together and cried in pain together. But still we are not lovers. We meet in solitary, in crowd, in private, in public. Sex is also a basic desire of human beings as hunger and thirst. To restrict oneself to go physical with someone just because of the name of the relationship only shows the fear of being reproached by society or strong reverence towards social rules and laws. That is also not bad. But what is wrong if our relationship has physical involvements and we still are good friend.
Providing condition of having suitable environment, warm feeling and both acceding, physical relationship is just inevitable, I mean with the person who is just your good friend. And that definitely does not adulterate friendship. In fact what I think is, there must be something wrong who does not go physical even they have favourable condition to do so. This is just another thought, not necessarily apply to all.
When one spends long time with someone its very natural that feelings towards him/her get nurtured. Here I have no restriction of male and female. Same feelings do get nurtured in the case of same sex too. Let’s imagine a scene. Two boy, or two girls, lived in a same room during their college or university life for, hmmmm...... lets say 4-5 years. Lots of people develop some attraction towards each other that time. They have same feeling of warmness, protection, care, love that people develop when they are with opposite sex. It’s just a question of someone revealing their passion and some one hiding it. Does who reveals, we give them a name like GAY or LESBIANS depending upon sex. Does who hides, they are STRAIGHT.
To say the truth sometime I felt like crying in my roommates lap when I had agony. And sometimes I wanted to hug him when I am very happy. But the culture, rules, regulations, etiquettes, conventions are so deeply rooted in my mind and heart that I just can't gather enough courage to do that. What if he is a girl? ........ no need to answer. In fact isn’t European straighter than us Asian who are allowed to put arms around friend's shoulder. Aren't Arabs, who are allowed to hug in daily life, gay-ish than Europeans?
In conclusion what I want to say that going physical when you have strong passion and when your desire calls, and above all there is suitable condition does not adulterate friendship no matter it is with same sex or opposite.
 

BY :-  Suman Shrestha.
China

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